Many of us sometimes use anger as a weapon in what we sometimes call
controlling people and we forget that it is not possible to control people, but
it is easy to influence them. Influencing people is always easier and that can
take place with peace and love and keeping good wishes. Also, looking at people
with positivity and having a vision for them that they are good helps to make
them do what we may expect them to do. Also, being humble and kind-hearted will
make people respect you and do what you desire or bring any change that you
desire much more.
Always remember we are inherently peaceful and loveful souls and as we
come in the cycle of birth and rebirth we lose these qualities and start
becoming full of desires of different types. Expecting or desiring a certain
type of behavior from someone else is the root cause of all forms of anger.
Also, desiring a certain type of situation, as per our liking is another cause
of anger. Both these desires, when not fulfilled, make us irritated or upset or
even violent in some cases.
On the other hand, accepting
situations and people with ease is possible for those who are full internally,
with different qualities and powers. These qualities and power come with the
help of spiritual knowledge and following a path to bring the spiritual
knowledge in your life. The more spiritually strong we become, the more we are
able to remain above changes in our life which are not as per our liking.
Also, we remain stable when sometimes people close to us are behaving in
a way, which is different from what we think is right or preferred. Also
fulfillment on an external level can sometimes make us egoistic. On the other
hand internal fulfillment of different qualities makes us humble and very
uncomplicated in our dealings, a behavior which satisfies people easily.